What makes a good friend

 Another week closing and glad that this week is over. It has been a weird week, and I know for some it is has been a tough week. That is why when you are going through some tough time in your life you find out who your friends really are. 

They are the ones who will instantly message you to ask if you are ok, who have popped around not to give you a lecture or the third degree, but for a cuppa and a chat, and may even help around the house for you.

Loyal friends may not be those whom you see all the time, but you know they are there, should you need a shoulder to cry on or just someone to let out all your stresses to and just listens. I have friends whom in the passed have told me all their troubles, but then when it comes to saying my own I get cut short and I wish I had never said anything. These are the ones I have cut out of my life, because there is a difference between a friend who is just having a bad day to someone who is continuously negative and wants the friendship to be one way. 

Friendship to me works both ways. A friend doesn't steal from a friend, they are honest with you and will help you out if you don't have change for the bus, as long as they know they can trust that you will give it back, or they'll say "Don't worry about it" and you know they mean it, but you know not to use this to take advantage of this kind gesture. They know that you'll do the same for them in return.  

A good friend is never negative, they just know if there is something bothering them they can tell you without being afraid to, and it goes both ways. There is no conversation when it is one way traffic but when one speaks and listens, and then the other one speaks whilst the other one listens, you know you have a good friend. 

They will always have your back no matter what and will say "Hey you put your chin up you have me for a bit to talk to forget everyone else" or you can be totally honest with by telling them they have upset you if they have thrown a hurt your way but they didn't realise it and didn't mean for it to offend you. You know neither of you will walk away and resolve the issue without having a massive argument. 

No matter what, wherever you are that friend will not be your friend for 5 minutes but a friend for life. 

So if you know you have a friend who needs your support give it to them, and be there not to bend their ear necessarily but to help pick them up should they fall. Remember if someone doesn't do that for you, who you see as a friend then if they are a true friend you can tell them and ask why, to let them know you want them to be there for you. If they are a true friend they will do so without question. 

Have a great weekend peops and I will blog again next week.

Many thanks for reading, 


​Carrie X 

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