We do let him walk, but he has no concept of where anything is and goes in the opposite direction, so until he starts to learn to go where we are going, then he does have to be in the pushchair.
The "Terrble Two's" are a testing of patience to see how calm you can stay until you start to want to have an "Adult tantrum" of your own.
Then you both end up in tears and want to chuck yourself on the floor.
I have been trying the Jo Frost approach (from the series Supernanny) of:
- Step back: Get perspective
- Observe: What is happening?
- Step in: Respond
Following in these steps have helped, but wish to know more as like so many other mums who are probably nodding to these blog right now, that I can't help loose control when my son decides to swipe the spoon out my hand, then it becomes a battle of getting the food into his mouth without him knocking the next spoonful out of my hand.
I have ordered the Jo Frosts book "Toddler Rules" and I will see what else I can pick up and I will do a blog and video to review the book once I have read this. If you are reading this and know of a good book you could recommend then please let me know. See on the right side of the screen as you are looking at it, the link to my Facebook, Twitter and Instagram accounts and my email address, or please leave a comment below of any books, other blogs or websites that will help me with the toddler tantrums. All support and advise is truly welcomed.
Tip: You do have to be careful at this age or when they have teeth as we did notice that some of the teats had started to split, because of him biting on them, another reason why we had to change.
It was a good time to do it. We had tried before numerous times but he would just knock the cups out of our hands or turn his head away.
However we felt he was ready and can drink from the cup without the spout, and loves it.
With parenthood you do have to be persistent and never feel defeated if your baby or toddler doesn't move onto things well at first or straight away.
The one thing I have realised they decide on when they are ready, not us.
We have now also begun moving him from, is from the Readymade meals 12+ meals onto eating our own food more. We will use them for holidays and for when he is having his lunch or dinner at Nannies, but apart from that he will have more of our food now.
It has been an amazing time and would not change it for the world, I will keep working on the tantrums to deter them before they start.
Last night I managed to do that, as dinner time was a lot better, he did kick off a little because he wanted to get out of his pushchair at I started to boil up too, but then bought it back to being calm and managed to distract him most of the time and make his dinner time fun. It certainly made us both feel better afterwards too, not wanting it to be over as soon as possible.
I made sure I didn't have my husband tablet near me, so I'd get distracted by Youtube or my phone, and made sure that all my attention was making sure he enjoyed and ate his dinner. I watched his actions, to know when he wanted a break in between eating to allow him to digest his food and made sure I had his water near by too.
We sang nursery rhymes and did the motions he has learned from Monkey Music and so when he did eat without a fuss gave him praise.
I have realised that social media can play part in Henry having tantrums when he is having his dinner and so I have now made sure when I have a meal in front of him, whether it is breakfast, lunch or dinner I am not watching YouTube or checking Facebook but setting a good example to teach him this how you eat your dinner.
The next step will be having meal times at the table as I do think being someone who did that as a child, myself, my brother, dad and my mum when they were married the one thing we always did, is sit around the table to eat rather than on the sofa in front of the TV.
So when mother and baby books say about no distractions at meal times it is true.
The one other thing I have learned and have mentioned before, is that they learn a lot by our actions and examples of what we do, that they pick up, rather than on what we say, and so it is the case of, if I want my son to learn to sit and eat his dinner not wanting to get up or want to play with his toys, then I have to show him that when I eat.
So from now on all tablets, phones and computers are band at meal times.
Have a great weekend people.