Hello and welcome to another Friday Blog. It is a very hot day today in Surrey so got a Maxi Dress on. Usually they are too long but this one I have which I bought from Ebay some years now, still in good condition, has always been a perfect length and my go to dress when it is hot outside. I just got back from picking up Henry from Nursery who had a good day. He has had two good days this week, it is always difficult when you hear bad feedback, but he is learning what gets a good response and doesn't, but is at the stage where he wants to continuously test the boundaries. He gave me a cheer as I walked in to meet him and take him home.
They had all the really smaller children downstairs today and some other children arrived to do the afternoon session. Henry didn't have such a good night last night and is going through the motions of testing what gets the most response. When I went into his room when I heard him cry about 01:11am I checked if he wanted some water and he took it, but was mucking about with it and smiled as if pleased he got one of us to get up and see him.
So I settled him down again and he fussed but let him try and settle himself but he then began to get loud as before, so went into to see him again and turned up his radio slightly which we put on to help sooth him. The third time I didn't go in and his crying turned into laughing which made me realise that he was doing what he could to get a response. When he didn't get a response he made the noise as if to cry again to see if this will work. Realising it didn't he did quiet down I then poked my head around his bedroom door to check on him to show that I am here and show that he doesn't have to make all that noise for a response he did settle back to sleep.
When it comes to bedtime and sleep, you can do all the bedtime rituals in the world but sometimes like us adults they will struggle to sleep and their reaction to this is to cry for attention and sometimes play about. So my advice is to do the 3 times test, go in once to see if your child may need his/her blanket on, would like some water and I always check his nappy and if his nose is blocked.
If your child begins to smile at you and muck about then it is wise not to get into conversation or make eye contact. Lay them down and say good night and then leave.
2nd time check to see if they need something to soothe them, perhaps a cuddly toy, but just be careful that it is not near their mouth or nose, and doesn't have any bits falling off or they could bite off, just place it in the cot so it is at the side away so it can't fall onto the child in anyway. Babies and toddlers can suffer with separation anxiety and so often they will grab your attention to reassure themselves that you are there. Or play some soothing music.
3rd time if it is clear they just want your attention and want a response from you, to not go in. It is important to listen to the amount of gaps there are between the cries. You will learn more about your child as they grow and you'll know when they are in real distress and when they are just trying to grab your attention. They learn what sounds as soon as they know how to make noise what grabs mum and dads attention. They will often use it to test the boundaries.
I hope those who have also had sleep issues find these tips useful. Remember you are not alone.
What I am happy about is that Cold Feet is back soon, yay and because they have the box set of all the passed series on Sky Boxsets I downloaded some episodes of the first series to get ready for the new one.
If you are new to the series of Cold Feet then it is a mixture of comedy and drama where you one minute want to laugh out loud and the next cry. The three couples in the series were in love, got married and had a child, but then turned sour leading to affairs and divorce. Oh and one of the ladies sadly dies in a car crash.
I would say it is a resemblance of real life I think that is why it was so successful because people could relate to it, in a way and brilliantly written.
See Trailer video below of the new series to get you excited to.
It has been a good week. After a week of splurging which I did save for as we were always going to be out last weekend, it was good to get back to some normality.
Have a good weekend everyone and I will blog again next week.
Many thanks for reading,