Sorry this blog is a day late, but Friday turned into a challenging evening, with getting Henry settled to bed.
He did start of sound a sleep but found it hard to sleep during the night. Seeing things through Henry's eyes, I see that for him to learn he has to do each new thing at a time.
So why do I find it hard a times to focus on one thing at a time?
I am guilty of boasting about being someone who multi-tasks to my husband when he will not try to check his mobile whilst doing the toast in the morning or has never tried to complete a to do lists.
I have finally abandoned to do lists, because to me they add to the pressure. So I now put a few things down or in my family planner I will use stickers to highlight the main jobs of the week. Such as cleaning, laundry and making sure Henry has plenty of exercise, then I will do other things as the week commences.
Walking to work this morning, which is one of my pleasures now as it really is a good kick start to my day, and is a great way to learn to focus on one thing, I was thinking about writing this blog, and of my week just gone.
What I enjoyed was listening to some chill out music (which I know isn't to everyone's taste) whilst preparing dinner, and why I enjoyed that so much?
It made me take my time instead of rushing, and paying attention to each vegetable I cut and listen to the music. I had a cup of tea to drink to and thought no, I am going to make this dinner if it is not exactly on time fine, just as long as it gets done.
I still though at times find myself rushing and it has been noticed at work, and people noticing how I will rush around and I remember a guy at Butlins saying to me once and I hadn't even noticed I was doing so "Why are you always in a hurry and rushing?"
My answer "What I have been used to and can't break the habit"
I think like smoking, drinking and sugar, rushing can be an addiction too, but of course it isn't life threatening as much as much as these, but I do think trying to do so much can effect us mentally, by feeling overwhelmed and tired, to the point you feel like you can't be bothered because you have given yourself so much to do. Then you find yourself burned out.
I do think we do need to take time out like I wrote on my blog on Tuesday, about Taking your parent hat off because it something you need to do. and the same go for multi tasking. STOP.
My husband has really helped me a lot to stop trying to do too much, because when observing him, he will focus on one thing. like his driving he didn't then decide "Oh OK I will also try and learn to ride a motorbike" like I would. He wanted to learn to drive and buy a car, and because he was so focused on that one thing, he did it.
So I am going to spend more time focusing on one thing, as it does help complete jobs.
No more multi tasking, take my time and not try to rush.
I would love to hear from you, if you have ever been someone who has tried to do so much at once and what you did to help stop that, and how it made you feel when you stopped trying to do so many things. It would be great to hear from you.
Many thanks for reading,