It has been a strange week mixed with sadness and trying to be a normal as possible. I wish sometimes that I could live in my son's body for a week and see what he sees. I wonder if he knows that his Uncle Bluto isn't going to be visiting anymore.
My husband I have been watching a programme called Celebrity Ghost stories as it was Elvs brother, favourite sort of program. They had one story where the child kept looking in the corners of the room as if looking at something that only she could see. The celebrity was an American actress so I wasn't familiar to who she was, but she talked about seeing photos in each one their was a slash light across the photos and that the ghost in her home was attracted to the child and was worried because of what may happen to the child, because of this spirit.
The actress talked about how she still goes over in her mind about the confrontation she had with the ghost, and what she saw.
The night after we received some sad news, my hubby heard my son talking, which he usually does at night and then at the end said goodnight three times, very quietly and then fell back to sleep. I didn't hear it as I was a sleep myself. Well my hubby has had his own sightings of the paranormal and thinks that Henry was talking to his brother, and since then, Henry has just a couple of times been saying goodbye to something whilst looking out our window in our living room, which looks out onto our back garden. It does get me wondering if young babies and toddlers can see things that no one else can?
I often have had experiences where my nan for example, I kept seeing her still in my dreams and we would have fall conversations and I'd think I must have got it wrong, she is alive and I had the same experience when a co-worker at Butlins died suddenly, but was when I was in my 20's. I never as a child when my real dad's parents died ever saw them in my dreams, but I would go back to where they used to live in Fulham and in the dream I would feel this fear of what if I do see them.
In the dream I would sense the smell of scented soap, as my nanny Rose who have loads of them in different shapes and sizes, and I am not sure if that is in memory or if that is my nan sending me a message that she is still there in spirit in my dreams. Who knows?
My mum is the biggest sceptic going and when I told her, I knew she wouldn't believe it and give another reason why Henry would have said goodbye that night, when that was the only night he has said Goodbye at night and not any other time afterwards and same when looking out of our back garden.
I remember a friend of mine who had suffered a loss, she was travelling on the underground and a white butterfly had flown into the carriage and then out again. It does get me wondering, do we actually go or do we go back to where we care about or to whom we care about, or can we become something else. I know some people reading this may think I have lost the plot but it does get me thinking about what happens after death.
To some people it is a sensitive subject, I think it is because we know it is there and it will happen, but no one ever knows how or why. I think it teaches us that we have to celebrate what we have around us, and I am going to focus on the good times, keep those who have passed their memory alive so Henry remembers them and knows who they are, and to keep on living the best we can.
Yesterday we took Henry to Humbledown, which is a little farm and adventure park near where I live in Surrey and it has some animals and different play areas. It is designed for children I would add pictures to my gallery page soon. I updated this page today. It was a little pricey for what is there but they had this brilliant little cafe which was like a soft play cafe all made out of wood. I thought, what a brilliant idea, they should have more cafe's like this, not just in parks but in all different areas.
On the way back my hubby so happened to be driving home from work and gave us a lift. He has #radiojackie on and they play some good tracks and today they played one of my favourite the Bee Gees You Win Again. See video below.
I am off this weekend, which I am very looking forward to and my husband and I are up London spending some time together and going to enjoy the bank holiday.
Have a good weekend everyone. If you have any paranormal stores please share I would be interested to hear.
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It has been a testing week and I am going to say it knowing that there will be people who will disagree with me, but there is no such thing as sleep deprivation until you have become a parent. This is from someone who has suffered all her life with insomnia and have never been a good sleeper.
I suppose I should be adding this to my The Parenting Adventures page, but as this is Friday and I am sharing my world on my blog, well this was a huge point of my week, trying to do all I can to help Henry clear his cold. It must be so confusing and uncomfortable to them at that age, as I am sure they are like, "why is this thing they call a nose bothering me it isn't doing what it supposed to?" "What is this all about?".
As soon as my hubby and I put our heads on our pillows last night, a minute after turning the light out our son wakes up and cries. I am like "What but he was soundos he looked very settled", he wakes up jumping up and down in his cot.
We take him out of the cot into our room to sit on our bed to calm down and now he is all smiles. I am like "What you little devil, I love you but you are trying new tricks to get us up so you don't have to go to bed".
It did really get at me, I was like "I don't believe I fell for it" I mean I think he generally wanted a cuddle and some comfort but it was the way he grinned when he was up in our room as if to say "Yes I woke them up and now I am watching TV in bed like they are, its about time", as if he had pulled a prank that had worked. All I am thinking is "Why can't I get bedtime sussed out?" I thought we had, ok so the ritual we had did go a bit out of contents but we still follow more or less the same pattern. Thankfully YouTube lullabies on my phone were at the ready and instantly my son was settled and ready to go back to sleep, as so were we.
2am: He is awake again and making like a raspberry sound, which is his way of trying to clear his nose and can hear he is getting upset. My husband is happily in snooze land, so I go into his room and try to give him his inhaler, he wasn't interested, I give him his water, wasn't interested, then gave him some Calpol, finally he was happy to receive this. I think he has worked out from his eyes that whatever that is mummy gives in me by spoon can help him. I don't always like to give this to him as it is medicine still and I don't believe it should be over used, but it is there as a last resort.
In any case it is important to me that Henry gets a good night's sleep so trying to help him get back I turn off his radio and put on lullabies on YouTube again and once again he was a sleep. He was still sleeping up until about 6:45am this morning, which is late for him and I was dead to the world, took me forever to come round into wake up mode.
However I still have started to complete my To Do list, doing some bits last night helped give me a kick start and did my run, have some breakfast and now catching up on more bits before picking up Henry from Nursery.
I am looking forward to my weekend off next week and then soon be off to Poole celebrating my 10 year anniversary next month. I will be posting more on my 10 Year Anniversary page this coming week, and posting more videos.
Have a good Friday everyone and weekend,
See all next week.
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It is Friday and what a scorcher today. Henry has got a bit of Hayfever again so going to have to give him some anti-histamine medicine again. His skins isn't too bad, but I did strip him off earlier and give him a bath, which helped him cheer up as he woke up after his nap a bit grumpy.
I filmed a recipe yesterday, which I hadn't for a while and it was one I had promised to do a while back. My Easy Chicken Curry which I will upload soon. I am trying to use up what I have in my kitchen as I wrote in my blog on Tuesday about doing an Inventory list as I was fed up of the food we were wasting. If you keep doing so it can add up. I got to say it has made a difference.
I just need to do one of the what we have in our shed and chest freezer.
I have published too more videos this week, my Weekend Haul and an Avon unboxing video.
Today I paid some money towards my 25KM walk fundraising page that I have created for when I take part in the Thames Path Challenge from Putney to Hampton Court.
If you would like to help raise funds for the cause here is the link to my JustGiving page:
I also cleaned my kitchen which I do every Friday as it is the main room we use all the time and so we are continuously in and out. A lot of germs can linger in the kitchen so it is so important to clean it every week, if not able to do everyday. I clean mine twice a week thoroughly and then do quick cleans on other days.
Yesterday I dusted the bedrooms and the one thing I do regularly is clean the door handles and knobs as these are being used to open and close doors all the time, and we do tend to forget that germs can linger on these too. So it is important to clean these regularly. I use Flash All Purpose spray for these.
I have been enjoying the Olympics and we have had the music channel Vintage on this week throughout the evenings. They do play some good tunes.
I am also starting to plan for the next seasons coming, to have a clear out and to continue to build and make our rooms nicer and less cluttered.
Tonight we are having salad with some chicken, mushrooms and potatoes. I am going to get my bag ready for work and then see if I have time for some reading.
I did check out some money saving tools and budget templates you can use, if you are like me trying to manage your money a lot better I will add these soon.
Anyway going to end blog here, but I will blog again next week.
I hope you all have a good weekend and enjoy the lovely weather.
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Hello and welcome to another Friday Blog. It is a very hot day today in Surrey so got a Maxi Dress on. Usually they are too long but this one I have which I bought from Ebay some years now, still in good condition, has always been a perfect length and my go to dress when it is hot outside. I just got back from picking up Henry from Nursery who had a good day. He has had two good days this week, it is always difficult when you hear bad feedback, but he is learning what gets a good response and doesn't, but is at the stage where he wants to continuously test the boundaries. He gave me a cheer as I walked in to meet him and take him home.
They had all the really smaller children downstairs today and some other children arrived to do the afternoon session. Henry didn't have such a good night last night and is going through the motions of testing what gets the most response. When I went into his room when I heard him cry about 01:11am I checked if he wanted some water and he took it, but was mucking about with it and smiled as if pleased he got one of us to get up and see him.
So I settled him down again and he fussed but let him try and settle himself but he then began to get loud as before, so went into to see him again and turned up his radio slightly which we put on to help sooth him. The third time I didn't go in and his crying turned into laughing which made me realise that he was doing what he could to get a response. When he didn't get a response he made the noise as if to cry again to see if this will work. Realising it didn't he did quiet down I then poked my head around his bedroom door to check on him to show that I am here and show that he doesn't have to make all that noise for a response he did settle back to sleep.
When it comes to bedtime and sleep, you can do all the bedtime rituals in the world but sometimes like us adults they will struggle to sleep and their reaction to this is to cry for attention and sometimes play about. So my advice is to do the 3 times test, go in once to see if your child may need his/her blanket on, would like some water and I always check his nappy and if his nose is blocked.
If your child begins to smile at you and muck about then it is wise not to get into conversation or make eye contact. Lay them down and say good night and then leave.
2nd time check to see if they need something to soothe them, perhaps a cuddly toy, but just be careful that it is not near their mouth or nose, and doesn't have any bits falling off or they could bite off, just place it in the cot so it is at the side away so it can't fall onto the child in anyway. Babies and toddlers can suffer with separation anxiety and so often they will grab your attention to reassure themselves that you are there. Or play some soothing music.
3rd time if it is clear they just want your attention and want a response from you, to not go in. It is important to listen to the amount of gaps there are between the cries. You will learn more about your child as they grow and you'll know when they are in real distress and when they are just trying to grab your attention. They learn what sounds as soon as they know how to make noise what grabs mum and dads attention. They will often use it to test the boundaries.
I hope those who have also had sleep issues find these tips useful. Remember you are not alone.
What I am happy about is that Cold Feet is back soon, yay and because they have the box set of all the passed series on Sky Boxsets I downloaded some episodes of the first series to get ready for the new one.
If you are new to the series of Cold Feet then it is a mixture of comedy and drama where you one minute want to laugh out loud and the next cry. The three couples in the series were in love, got married and had a child, but then turned sour leading to affairs and divorce. Oh and one of the ladies sadly dies in a car crash.
I would say it is a resemblance of real life I think that is why it was so successful because people could relate to it, in a way and brilliantly written.
See Trailer video below of the new series to get you excited to.
It has been a good week. After a week of splurging which I did save for as we were always going to be out last weekend, it was good to get back to some normality.
Have a good weekend everyone and I will blog again next week.
Many thanks for reading,