It is Friday again and we have now reached another transition in our lives whereby Henry has now started nursery. Before I continue, please no asking me where through my websites and social media he is going to nursery and the name of it, as I am not going to share that information, for child protection. I know sometimes it is done innocently, but please respect myself and my families privacy in disclosing such information. The thing about social media is that anyone can read what you put out there, and so, as much I like to share my world, at the same time I do like to keep some things private. I will tell friends when I see them, but until I see them details of where my son is going to nursery is going to remain private.
Yesterday he had an induction, which is where Henry starts to get the feel of the place and plays, and joins in with the other children. I give details to the nursery nurses about Henry, his loves, loathes, food and his development. What areas do they need to help support which our son has not grasped yet.
He did play well outside and climbed the little climbing frame, which he wouldn't even attempt before. He still is learning when he needs to sit down and listen but being in a nursery environment like we all did when we first went to nursery or play school we soon picked up on how to do that.
Today was his first settling in session. So went in with him and, as soon as I saw him run off and in the children's bathroom, I then went off and aloud him to start building his confidence in his nursery. I didn't want to hang around as I think sometimes that can cause children to get upset and not want you, the parent, to leave,
Henry did really well. I was so nervous today to the point I couldn't really eat anything this morning. I have no idea why, but as soon as I left Henry at the nursery to settle in, I was fine, but usually I have loads of tasks to do. Today I felt lost and was checking the time every 5 minutes. When I picked him up though he was smiling and full of excitement, and I was shown some pictures the lady at the nursery took of his first settle in day and he had a way of a time. He even today sat down and listened to the story being read without kicking up a fuss. He didn't eat anything when they had snack time, but sometimes they won't in a new environment as they can be so excitement that food doesn't interest them at that point.
It was a good day and I am so relieved and glad to get that day out of the way.
With the weekend ahead I was supposed to be going out to celebrate my friends birthday but with lack of funds it is not possible until pay day next week, However my husband is driving my son and I for the first time tomorrow in the morning to Iceland's to get the rest of the months food shopping and then probably take Henry to the park. So I have Saturday off but working on Sunday.
Henry does have two more settle in sessions at nursery next week for a bit longer and is going to spend lunch time there, so be good to see how he does then. It is a massive change because they go from being with you all the time to then going off and being in a new environment to start their road to independence. I can appreciate those mums and dads who avoid taking their child to nursery until they are a bit older, because it is a big leap and can be for the parents, siblings aswell as the child. You know it is going to happen at some point whether it be nursery or straight into school, but it can be a difficult transition to take at the same time. I would say to all those mums and dads, who are thinking about taking their child to nursery but having doubts. Do what you feel right. Not what everyone else would do, but what will work for your child and for yourself.
No one knows their own child like a parent does and so you will know when they are ready and if they are ready to interactive with children on a more independent basis. Never feel rushed, or pressurised as that can lead to anxiety and worry, which your child can pick up on and cause them to be anxious. As a parent many of us do a lot of worrying as it is, without needing to put the worries of should I or shan't I take my child to nursery or not. It is your choice and there will always be those who say you should do it, but it is your choice and about the needs of your own child.
Anyway, going to end the blog here as I want to see if I can get on with some more cleaning before bubs wakes up and then later I will be doing a run on the treadmill, as I need to run my stresses and cobwebs away.
Have a great weekend.
Many thanks for reading,
Another week closing and glad that this week is over. It has been a weird week, and I know for some it is has been a tough week. That is why when you are going through some tough time in your life you find out who your friends really are.
They are the ones who will instantly message you to ask if you are ok, who have popped around not to give you a lecture or the third degree, but for a cuppa and a chat, and may even help around the house for you.
Loyal friends may not be those whom you see all the time, but you know they are there, should you need a shoulder to cry on or just someone to let out all your stresses to and just listens. I have friends whom in the passed have told me all their troubles, but then when it comes to saying my own I get cut short and I wish I had never said anything. These are the ones I have cut out of my life, because there is a difference between a friend who is just having a bad day to someone who is continuously negative and wants the friendship to be one way.
Friendship to me works both ways. A friend doesn't steal from a friend, they are honest with you and will help you out if you don't have change for the bus, as long as they know they can trust that you will give it back, or they'll say "Don't worry about it" and you know they mean it, but you know not to use this to take advantage of this kind gesture. They know that you'll do the same for them in return.
A good friend is never negative, they just know if there is something bothering them they can tell you without being afraid to, and it goes both ways. There is no conversation when it is one way traffic but when one speaks and listens, and then the other one speaks whilst the other one listens, you know you have a good friend.
They will always have your back no matter what and will say "Hey you put your chin up you have me for a bit to talk to forget everyone else" or you can be totally honest with by telling them they have upset you if they have thrown a hurt your way but they didn't realise it and didn't mean for it to offend you. You know neither of you will walk away and resolve the issue without having a massive argument.
No matter what, wherever you are that friend will not be your friend for 5 minutes but a friend for life.
So if you know you have a friend who needs your support give it to them, and be there not to bend their ear necessarily but to help pick them up should they fall. Remember if someone doesn't do that for you, who you see as a friend then if they are a true friend you can tell them and ask why, to let them know you want them to be there for you. If they are a true friend they will do so without question.
Have a great weekend peops and I will blog again next week.
Many thanks for reading,