I have also written a new blog on my other website on Wordpress, updating my readers of that blog about what I have learned as a new parent, given an update now my son is years old. https://cazzachalloner40.wordpress.com/
I wanted to wait to post my blog this week because I had to take Henry to a few appointments, as he had an hearing test on Monday and then we visited a Nursery today, which both my hubby and I both really like. I am not going to give details of which one, because of child protection, but we both believe it will be the one for Henry to go to.
The hearing test went well. The Audiology specialists at the health clinic were really good and not too concerned but they just want to do another check in a few months time just to make sure.
My advise to other mums and dads who are worried about your child's development to speak to your health advisors or GP as they are there to help and will refer your child to be seen, and they have created these tests for your child so they don't feel any discomfort or anything. At the hearing test they got Henry to play with toys and had speakers that made a little noise and if the speaker lights up they will see a cuddly animal. Henry had a cuddly cat and a rabbit.
They then used an ear checker thing to look into his ears to check to make sure there is no infection or inside issue, or if the ear has fluid, this takes a couple of seconds. Your child may fidget but I tried to distract him and the specialists were very quick. I know it isn't nice to have your child crying because they still learning so they are gonna be a little bit like "Why have I got to sit still, and why are they putting that thing in the side of my head" because aren't sure what this is all about, but it is good to have their hearing checked just in case if you have concerns.
We are not overly concerned with Henry but the Health Advisor called to ask us if it was ok for him to be referred to have a hearing test, just to minus this out and so we agreed. We are not concerned in anyway as he can hear well but I think it good to check if the health advisor advises it. I got to say I have had more trust in the health visitor than my own GP, at times. There has always been someone there to call or speak to, not a receptionist telling me I can't have an appointment. He will be having speech therapy at some point, but I know Nursery will really help with this. I am learning as a parent that a lot of the time Henry will do things when we aren't (my husband and I) paying attention to him, and so they will do things when they are ready too and tend to do things when not asked too.
He is picking up a lot of words now, so we will have to really be careful about swearing.
If you are looking for a nursery then the questioned we asked was:
- How many children do they have at the moment?
- About Safety and Security
- What happens in case of an emergency and Henry does get hurt?
- Do they do regular fire checks?
- What happens if the child is not settling in?
- About food and the routine, aswell as costs and guarantee of a place.
My husband and I are new this too, and parenting is as new to us as it is for our son learning what things are and what words mean, I have come to realise that it ok to be new at some things, and with life you are always learning.
I never would tell other parents what they should or shouldn't do, because all children and everyone's situation is different. What I want to do is try and give help and advise based on what I have learned so far, as it is comforting to know sometimes that you are not the only one who is new to this. I think about my parents and my grandparents, it was all new to them once, it is all about persistence, trusting your instinct and asking for help, as we aren't made to know everything, but learn and do the best we can.
Many thanks for reading,
Today was such a lovely day being out in the park and playing out in the garden with my son Henry.
It was also great to come home after being out in the morning and chilling, being able to have some lunch and have a nice cup of tea with it.
Now I am updating my blog for the start of this week whilst my husband plays on his Tablet, and we have Only Fools and Horses on, on UK Gold.
I am not one for soaps but I do like my catch up TV as I have certain programmes I watch, such as I enjoyed The Voice (UK) this year with Boy George being one of the Coaches, Loose Women, Strictly Come Dancing when it is on, I enjoyed the Night Manager and we have been watching the Box Sets of True Blood and 24 that we can download from our Sky box.
I do look forward to my evening meal. It is the one meal I always plan and make sure I have a good feed before I wind down for the end of the day, ready to go to bed.
Quick way of baking jacket potatoes:
> Prick the potatoes with a fork all the way around the spuds
> Put in a saucepan of water so the water covers the potatoes
> Put on hob, medium heat for 45 minutes
> Preheat oven on 180 degrees
> Drain potatoes and put in a baking tray and cook in the oven for an hour to an hour `15 minutes
You can prepare and cook before hand, just cover in tin foil to keep in the heat and keep them warm.
Anyway I hope tomorrow is also a nice day, and I will blog again on Friday.
Have a good week everyone.
Many thanks for reading,
Hi all, I didn't blog on Friday as we had some of my hubbies family down and so my hubby and I were sorting stuff out ready for when they arrived.
It was a good weekend apart from a little bump in the road on Saturday evening, and had a great time up London on Saturday during the day, at our favourite place the Southbank in London.
I have filmed this in My Days In Life video which I will be filming all this week until Friday,
Henry was taken to a new Nursery that has opened up near where we live and he loved it, I think he is ready too start nursery. I do think from what I have learned so far being a parent is that it is good to start getting them to do their own thing and go to a nursery to help build their independence as children will copy other children, it helps them with their social skills and improve their development.
Henry had his 27th month health check and is going to have speech therapy, which will help him as I do still think because he was born premature that he has some catching up to do, as I can see that there a lot of skills that he is advanced in like social interaction, he is very engaging, he is very observant, but he just lacks listening to orders, he will at times, but not always and speech, as I can see when he gets frustrated when he is trying to communicate to us and we aren't picking up what he is trying to tell us all the time.
I think him joining a nursery will really help with this, along with having speech therapy.
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I have completed my Charity shop challenge for March and filmed my Mother and Baby video. I did film my Mother and baby video the last two months but lost videos due to my computer hard drive going faulty and so lost all this footage.
Anyway I will be putting what I videos I do have still up on my YouTube channel soon and when I do I will add them to my website aswell. So keep viewing as there is more to come.
Many thanks for reading and have a great rest of the week.
Sorry I didn't blog on Friday I was spending some time with friends and did the same today.
I hope everyone had a good easter and got lots of eggs. Henry did his second easter egg hunt and managed to find some eggs this year,
I think everyone had the same idea on Friday with it being such a sunny day and in England, us English always have to make the most of it when we can, as not always the case. I do enjoy these seasonal holidays for the very reason, to take the opportunity to see friends and spend time with family.
More so for Henry, as not being morbid but when he grows to be an adult there will be some friends and family who will have passed on, and so it is important to me that he gets to opportunity to see my friends and their children, and his relatives.
I am filming through the next two weeks, until the 8th April 2016. Sorry for the delay of uploading my videos, I have had some computer problems but I am trying to get them up as soon as i can.
So more videos on my Youtube channel and website to come.
Anyway have a great week everyone and I will make sure i blog this Friday.
Many thanks for reading,
So trying to post a blog the last two days my computer upstairs has gone on the blink, and so I have had to re-write my blog using my laptop but it is finding a good spot to use the laptop, as I can use on my bed but too low down, and I get back ache, can use in living room whilst bubby a sleep which I did try but by the time I set everything up, my son woke up and in the kitchen where I am typing now I have no stall and so I am having to stand at the moment whilst typing and not too bad but I have to keep stopping to take break. I like to be sitting comfortably so I can get into the right frame of mind when typing my blogs. The same when writing my books.
I don't think I could ever be one of the those who spends hours typing on their laptops on the train or bus, I have to be in my own space.
However I was determined to write my blog and wanted to post yesterday because I was really excited about the new Batman Vs Superman film, and yes I am a BIG KID when it comes to these films, but I am proud to be such a fan of these great action films. If you know me, you will know I have loved superhero films for a long time, I put my brother and mum through years of boredom as a kid wanting to watch Superman films over and over again.
The film Batman Vs Superman is released here in the UK on the 25th March and I am definitely going to make sure I go and see it. It seemed like forever waiting for another Superman film to come out, and so when the film Superman Returns was released I was on the computer checking when it was going to be released down at the South coast cinemas, where I lived at the time when this film was coming out, and I know it didn't get a good review, but I actually loved the film and I think they should have kept with that story.
My husband and I went to see the Man of Steel, and it was good film I thought Russell Crowe played the part of Superman's Kryptonian Father really well, as Marlin Brando played the part originally back when the first film Superman 1, was made in the late 70's which were huge shoes to fill, and I thought Michael Shannon who played General Zod was good too. I like the actor who played Superman, not as uncanny as the actor who played Superman in Superman Returns, as he looked so like the wonder and late Christopher Reeves, who will always be my Superman, but the actor Henry Cavill, did portray the part well. The one thing I was really disappointed about with the Man of Steel was the iconic Superman music. I love that tune it is Superman's tune and should have been kept the same. So I was very disappointed with that, it was like changing the film into an X-Men film version of Superman and not on the super hero himself and what he is known for and I being a massive fan of superman films, I see the original Superman music to me is part of his identity.
So to the producers of these films, I will always love them and be excited when they are released and made, but please, please keep the original music.
Many thanks for reading,
To day is women's day so remember to where the colour purple
Today it is Women's day, and we ladies are pretty special the fact that we can carry a human being around inside our bodies for 9 months and give birth, and the fact that each month we have to go through a menstrual cycle, which isn't always pleasant and can make use feel groggy.
Hello and welcome to another Blog Tuesday.
Typing this as my bubs is having his nap,
I already have a mother's day gift on, a lovely jumper from H&M, which was in the sale and got the jumper for £7.00, and I love it. I love big bulky jumpers, just so cosy and they do look great with ankles boots and leggins.
I am tempted to go back and buy another, jumper and they had some lovely Jewelry sets too, that it took me a while to decide, and I found a lovely set for £1.99.
I am reading this book I got from the library, and it just caught my eye and so I picked it up and I was just intrigued by it.
It is written by the lady you see on the front cover Arianna Huffington, who was a co-founder of the Huffington post. She talks about how she had to change her life around, after working herself to exhaustion, even though the Huffington Post was a huge success she hadn't allowed herself the time to have peace or time to rest.
I am only at the beginning, but it is so interesting, as it talks how tiredness plays a huge factor in how we live our life. The part I am reading is talking about Meditation and how much it really helps the mind and can help with sleep.
I meditate because I like others have trouble trying to switch off and it seems like my mind just goes on overdrive if I let it, to the point I feel stressed and not bothered. Especially at night time, as soon as I lay my head on my pillow my mind will start to play and so I have to think no STOP and is one of the reasons why I read before bed and have a decaf cup of tea, to help me wind down for bed.
Since doing meditation and I am starting to discipline myself to do this every day, even if it is for a few seconds, it does really help turn off. Just concentrating on your breathing, the sounds that I can hear from outside or around me, what each of my senses are picking up, it really does help clear the mind.
I do this before I go for a run now too, and put on motivation video. I talked in a blog about how walking and running helps with this too, because I do find it hard at times to focus on one thing.
However doing exercise and meditation, cleaning, cooking and baking, plus reading, does help me focus on one thing at a time and really helps stops my mind for becoming overwhelmed which I know can lead me to burnout and procrastinate.
I finished this book last week, and I found it to be a really great tool for parents with toddlers. I would recommend reading, and trying out the rules she implies.
I have found the S.O.S technique has helped.
Since reading this book we created a more structured routine for Henry's bedtime and has really helped.
Some of the details about when to feed your child, I would use as a guide but not too the book as it depends on your child and if they do different activities in the day.
It is a guide so never fear you have to change your whole routine, unless you feel the current routine you have for your child is not working, but adapt it to your current routine and tweak it, so for example you both have one meal together, listen to peaceful music, create story time and and create new games and activities.
I would give 8/10
By the end of the week I will have my chocolate making video up, I am editing this as I go and so want this up by tomorrow. Once it is I will add to my website too, and be posting how I spent my valentines weekend too.
My monthly Mother and Baby Chat video I filmed last week, so this will be going up, by next week, so see you on Friday where I will post once more.
Have a great week peeps and thanks for reading,
Sorry this is a day or so late, but have been writing more of my third book and because I had the most exciting dream ever I have used this to write a book aswell. No nothing naughty, well not all of it. I don't know if others have experienced when sleeping, where you have one dream wake up and then the next dream is a follow up of the previous dream.
OK so some may think I am a bit loony, and if you know me well, you know that, that is quite true, but there is logic in my madness.
Also been concentrating on helping with Henry's development and took him to a museum on Saturday, which he didn't really take in, but I still think it was good for him to experience and then we took a walk up to them embankment. It was a shame we couldn't have done more, but the weather was miserable and cold, I will be posting a video soon of our Valentines weekend.
My husband has now got a new toy. As he is now officially a qualified driver he has now bought himself a car. So I was looking after our son whilst he sorted that out, and so by the time I had a spare moment it was our dinner time and then off to bed.
I was thinking about the rugby days yesterday and how great they were. I really hope that Henry when he grows up, that he too experiences such a great social community of a variety of so many people.
I used to follow a rugby team called the London Broncos, and back when they were known as the London Crusaders. It was my friend, who I am still friends with today, who introduced the rugby league world to me. It was the most uplifting, words can not describe times of my life. Travelling up to the away games, meeting up ready for the home games, travelling abroad and going to dinner and dances up at Blackpool. they were just the most "You needed to experience it" time of my life, to know what I mean.
With so many characters who would carry their collection of football, and rugby programs around with them, and when I was asked for ID once at an away game, how one of my fellow supporters turned to the bar women and said "Yeah she is the right age, I'd buy her a drink any day" and then I would then get into the grounds under the child rate ticket.
I was honest though, but they insisted that I pay for a child's ticket and I won a chance to be a mascot at Wakefield.
To all those who may read this whom I met and had such great times with at the rugby, Thank you. Those memories will always be special to me, and I have such amazing memories that I can take with me forever. Thank you to my friend Mary Pittway whom was the person who introduced me to the world and to Phil and Susan Jones for looking after me.
R.I.P to those who have now passed on, I really hope I get to see them again some day in a different place.
God bless and many thanks for reading,
Yes guys it is pancake day today, and I had some already yesterday evening. Sorry no pictures as I just wanted to eat them, and no they were not handmade "Shame on me", but thank you Waitrose for just being down the road. No I am not sponsored by them, they are just convenient to get to.
So I have been reading Jo Frost's book, Toddler Rules, 5 Steps Guide to Shaping Proper Behavior.
It has been really helpful, but if you are a new mum or perhaps you have had children with a long gap in between and so feel like it is all new to you again, you may read it and start to have that negative feelings of "I can't get this right", "I have been doing this all wrong".
If you are having these sorts of feelings, then it is good to either chat with someone else about it and your fears, or write a journal of your emotions, as this really has helped me, not just through motherhood but in life in general too.
I would say like all guides, they use the word "Guide" for a reason, so not to follow it to the letter "That is what you have got to do", but take tips and advice that will help you to learn as a parent, alter your routine slightly if some parts are not working, as you would like for your child, and help teach your baby or toddler, to behave, because they will try and test you.
The techniques about S.O.S, (Step back, Observe and Step in), really has helped and having a more of a bedtime routine, as well as a daily routine has really made things a lot more calming for all of us, with Henry settling to bed a lot better. He is generally a good sleeper but every now and again, and since he has been unwell, has had really bad nights, so having a more structured bedtime routine has really helped.
I thought I would share this with you,of our sons bedtime routine, as sharing tips from other mums, has really helped me and I really want to do all I can to help and support other mums out there too.
Henry's bedtime routine
So it is more of a ritual and letting him know bedtime is coming up.
I would love to hear from other mum's what routine you follow for your children's bedtime. Elv and I finally managed to get our son into a routine, when he was about 5 months old and even when you have a child, and then another, it can still take a while to get into a routine.
However having a routine does really help them, and yourself, so stick to it and be persistent.
It can become a juggling act and if I could step out of myself and speak to the self who starts to stress and worry about doing a good job I would say "You are doing a good job, and never fear there is always a solution, and someone to help".
Many thanks for reading, have a good week people and I will blog again on Friday,
So if I don't manage to blog on a Monday, I will blog on a Tuesday instead.
Time caught up with me yesterday, cleaning the kitchen and getting bits done before I took Henry to Gymboree.
It was in a Play Cafe that has a mini kids gym, where Henry also played for a bit. As soon as we got in I put him to bed, it certainly tired him out.
He slept on until this morning.
I was up though last night working, as I have been updating and re-editing my books.
"The Parenting Adventures- The First Nine Months" and my first novel "A Lonely Walk From Happiness". I will let you all know once these have been republished.
If you would like to get into writing, it is time consuming and takes a lot of discipline and commitment like other things, but if you really want to take people in your mind or world then writing a book is a great thing to do.
That is what a book is, the writer is taking you into their imagination and world.
Some starting tips:
1. Create the picture.
So when you think of a story or book, play the picture in your mind. This will help write it down and help create that image onto paper or type it up on the computer.
The skeleton draft is always the foundation in which you can develop once you have all the story and images in your mind in writing.
2. Always have a notepad and a pen to hand so if you have an idea you can jot it down. I do find that my mind will wonder and create ideas, in the most unexpected of places.
3. Create and picture your main character or characters. Again like tip one, picturing the characters, what they are wearing, smelling, hearing, their posture, are the confident, shy or scared? Do they have piercings, a tattoo? Who else can you see as you play the images of the story or book you wish to create >
4. What role do they play in your story?
5. Edit once you have got the base of your story down. Leave it and then come back, as you don't always see the mistakes in the spelling and grammar until you go back to it.
Writing is not just a passion but is a powerful thing, I love reading books where I am griped in the story and want to read on, and on. I love being taught something new, they can give you a new interest and inspire you. Books can help those like my books whom are or have gone through the same experiences as you.
It is a great tool and I will always encourage people to read as you never know what you can find or what you will learn and discover.
Many thanks for reading,