Happy Tuesday everyone. If you are new to my website then welcome. I write my blogs on Mondays, Tuesdays and Friday's. I am a mum, housewife, author of two books and I also share my blogs on my #WordPress
And I currently work part time in Customer Service.
Whenever you see this logo it will mean some changes. To recap from my previous blog posts, my Fitness & Wellbeing page has been moved onto my Archives page where I will be putting my blog and YouTube video pages I will no longer be using.
I will be writing my blogs regarding fitness and wellbeing, and yearly fundraising events I like to take part in on my #WordPress site https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com/
My Monday Check-in, Blog Tuesday and Friday Feelings page will be changed to weekly blogs, and I will combining my weekly blogs and videos together. It will be changed to Everyday living and lifestyle.
I will post this new page once it has been completed.
The pages Tales of my Travels, Books Reviews and Hauls will be under this new heading, Everyday Living and Lifestyle, but they will have their own page still.
The Filofax and Planner and Packing videos page, will be is under a new page, Personal Organisation and Planning. This will go live on my website once completed.
I will be combining The Parenting Adventures and Mother and Baby pages together, and these will be moved on to my blogs and videos on my #WordPress sites: https://theparentingadventures.wordpress.com/ and
The Parenting Adventures and Mother & Baby page will be moved to my Archives page.
My Mind Management page will be moving to my #WordPress site: http://www.everyonecanbuildacastle/wordpress.com
The Mind Management page will be moved onto the Archives page aswell.
This is where I will be posting my Self Confidence videos.
So I am now going to go and have my dinner and I will post again on Friday. Have a great week everyone.
Many thanks for reading,
Please scroll down to ready my blog today.
I re-used a blog post that I hadn't use to write a blog today about being more productive and finding more balance.
Have a good week everyone
First of all, well done to Tom Daley and Dan Goodfellow for their amazing Bronze medal. I thought they were all amazing. You can see how committed and work they have to put in. They make it look so easy.
I am loving the Olympics, great chance to see so many sports in one set of games. It is a great event for other sportspersons to get recognition. I do think they are often forgotten about due to other sports taking over, such as football and rugby.
After a busy weekend I did manage to catch up on some other TV yesterday and watching Long Lost Family on ITV 1 does make me put my own life in perspective. It makes you realise how lucky you are, when there are people out there who have never met their biological parents, or whom have had to give up their child for adoption because of bringing shame to families having children out of wedlock as it was often seen years and years ago, and then wanting to find their child years later.
I do think we do live in a different society now.
Today I finally got to do an inventory list of all the food we have in our fridge, freezer and cupboards, as I was fed up of wasting food, and finally wanted to put an end to it. I am going to make sure every thing is used up. It did open my eyes to how much we waste and it is money at the end of the day.
Being more careful with my money has made a massive difference. Organising my bank accounts so I have one for everyday spending, bills and savings has been a massive change and best thing I have done. I am now going to do the same with buying items on the high street and groceries to buying items online.
Doing this helps to see where my money is going and to be more careful with what I buy and spend. Sometimes we can so easily press the buy button and go into denial of if I can't see my bank balance then I don't have to think about it, but it will still be there. I have made a rule that if I do want something then I see if I can buy it in store first and check the price and #Ifitworksout to be more #costeffective including delivery charge to buy online or if I am not able to find the item in any local store.
I have also been working on this months budget, which has also helped massively in looking at my finances and I will find some really good online tools to share on my blog posts if you are also needing some help with money, and will help get you started.
Have a good week.
Many thanks for reading,
Start of a new week. The Rio 2016 Olympics has come to an end and we are coming up to the last weekend in August 2016, soon it will be Autumn again.
I am pleased that they are going to have a parade for all those who won medals for Team GB who have travelled back now from the games.
It has been a tough old couple of days not saying too much as I wish to protect my husband and his family but it has really made me see that you have to make the most of your time as you just never know what is around the corner.
So I have been trying to be more productive and get a balance between looking after the home, doing my blogs, books and videos and spending sometime with Henry. It isn't easy and sometimes I wish I could lock myself in a room somewhere just to have a bit of peace for 5 minutes.
This in turn has helped me with my financial situation, I see that buying materialistic items are great for 2 seconds at times, but they aren't going to help me have a good day out or a holiday. I have to be real and realise that I am not able to afford everything at the moment, but I can if I invest and not if I am splurging on things that is just going to add to the clutter in my home.
Anyway going to leave it there for today, here is a link to my latest video which you can watch right away:
I will upload to my Mind Management page soon so you can watch it there too. It is my new Self Confidence video talking about relationships.
Have a good week everyone and many thanks for reading,
It is Tuesday again. I was going to post yesterday but I felt so zapped of energy that when my son had his nap I had that feeling of, "I really need to lay down and shut my eyes, even if I don't actually sleep". I am not complaining about the weather, but I do dread it when it is this hot. My little boy really had bad hayfever and his little nose would not stop running.
I can't have my son in too much heat. The good thing is, it put me off, of going into town. If you have read my other blogs you would have seen that I am being very careful with my money, I am doing a lot better this month than others and have money in my savings now proper amount . Usually when I go into town I get the urge to splurge. I did need to get milk today and bread, which I did, but I did treat myself and hubby to a nice dessert. More for my hubby as he has had some bad news recently and wanted to cheer him up. Please do not ask what, this I wish to keep private but when I know someone is down, whether it be my husband, another family member or a friend, I do love to cheer them up.
If that means splashing out on making a nice dessert then that is what I will do. To be honest it didn't cost that much at all. Less than a £5. To cheer someone up you don't need to go mad, but making them a cuppa, washing up for them even or going to the shops for them, can be a massive weight of their shoulders. Even if it is buying them a surprise cup of coffee. Just showing that you love them rather than keep telling them how much you care, can go a long way.
I do think the nicer you are to people makes a difference too. There are that small majority of people whom think it is ok to be rude to others. I experience it every weekend when I am at work and someone calls into the Call Centre, and at least one person is rude, for no reason. Or if they haven't heard what they want to hear, they can get rude. I don't like giving bad news to people but when in a work environment you have rules to follow like everyone else at work, I can't always say what that person wants me too, to make them happy. It wouldn't be the truth. I am not going to lie to someone just to make them happy. What would they prefer me to be dishonest. That just makes things worse in my book.
When I hear of people going out of their way for other people it really helps keep the faith in people. Not sure if everyone saw the little Portuguese boy who went up to a French support and tried to console him, he could have laughed in the guys face or been nasty, but he wasn't and the Frenchman was so thankful and it showed everyone that, that is how to me human. Not being rude to someone because you feel that just because they work in a call centre, are in the public eye or even if it someone who works below you, at work, that they have the right to be spoken to like a piece of dirt. They are still someone's family or friend, you have no idea of what is going on in their own lives. So be kinder.
The more respect you give the more respect you get back.
So I do believe that if everyone was a lot nicer to others it would make a huge difference in the world. It will encourage others to be nicer to people too.
Many thanks for reading,
So I was trying to get my first blog for the week done yesterday, to post on my Monday Check in page, as I haven't posted on this page for a couple of weeks. Due to having issues with technology again, that didn't happen.
To say I have been unlucky the last 7 days would be an understatement. My camera stand broke, no idea why. I smashed one of my favourite mugs, due to not concentrating and being half a sleep, plus I have been ill. What I thought was Hayfever turned into a blasted cold, and saw throat, etc.
However life doesn't come to a stand still just because I am ill. You have to carry on.
If you read my Tuesday Blog and Friday's you would see that I am budgeting my money more. It was £10 a week, but working out how much I need to pay for Henry's items such as nappies, and baby wipes, food, then bread and milk and when we have salad with our dinner, we buy that when we are going to use it, and have it for our dinner that day, due to making sure it all is used up and doesn't go to waste. £10 a week was impossible, but worked it out, that it is £10 a week on personal items for myself, as that is where I have been splurging my money and do need to take control of.
£9 a week budget on Henry's bit and pieces, as worked out that is how much a week we sometimes spend, on baby wipes and nappies. Or we will do a monthly shop, on food which we will include in our grocery shop and on nappies and wipes.
Food a week as it is a small amount £2 a week This is just my budget on these items a week. I am lucky that there is two of us that I don't have
What it has made me do is not treat myself all the time, but prioritise. That is the key to all things when it comes to looking after the home, being a parent and money.
It has made a huge difference. I do get those urges of "I want to buy something" but I know I will regret that when I do, and has made me decide on what is important.
So my total budget a week is £20 a week.
The one thing I have been naughty for is paying off a balance on a Store Card "Potential Debtors" I call them, as you do have to be careful with these. Once I pay of a balance I have then thought "Oh great I can buy something else now using the card".
Once I have done that, I am like NO.
All I am doing is sending myself round in circles.
So it is all about prioritising, remembering what is important and when you buy yourself that coffee it is still a treat.
I now go buy Need Items are a essential so do need to pay money for these to make sure for example, my son has plenty of nappies, otherwise there will be puddles and mess every where, more than usual. Want items are a treat, they won't make me panic because I don't have these items. Not the end of the word if I don't have them, but if I have enough left of my budget then I will treat myself to these items.
Not buy them all at once.
So prioritising is the key and remembering what is important.
Many thanks for reading,
Hello! It is another week, and held out writing my blog, as wasn't sure what to post this week.
I did write a draft out this morning and was going to talk about the England match, but now the urge to write about that has worn off. I know there will be many who blog about football, ranting probably about the #Euro2016 #EnglandFC match, how badly played against Iceland. I have to say Iceland, were impressive when I first saw them play against Portugal, and I did think they would be the surprising team of the tournament.
Looking ahead, I bet there are some people out there glad to get their TV's back, as like my mum does, once England are out of a tournament doesn't watch the rest of the tournament. I don't blame some, sometimes it is just best to just forget and move on.
I, moving away from the focus of the #Euro2016 this week have begun to be into investing and saving my money again. I have started to concentrate on budgeting myself and really become strict with myself again with money. I used to be such a super saver and was told that "You should spend some of your money", but I wish I had never listened. As a kid I would always hide money and be so good at keeping the pocket money I had, and I know if I had kept with being so disciplined with my money I would most definitely be in a better situation.
I am not saying that I spend money everyday, but have stopped being so reckless with money, doing those instant splurges which I know I will regret 5 minutes after, knowing I have now over stepped my budget and yikes I have still got bills to pay this month. I think it is so easy to splurge and think "Oh I want to treat myself", but if you do it everyday or week, then it isn't a treat.
I am in the search of that little girl again who was so obsessed with saving and investing in the items I really want. My husband and I are desperate for a good proper family escape to an exotic country again, either by cruise or flying business class again. We talk about having our own home, but that won't happen if those instant splurges keep happening.
I think it is a lot easier to get into debt because of the amount of choice we have now. It's all there, and buying something is just a click away on your android phone, tablet or computer.
So my focus at the moment is saving and investing. Only buying what I need.
Now we are going to be leaving the EU and none of us really knows what is due to happen next, it is good to hold on to what you have before buying or spending money on anything else, that you don't truly need yet.
The one thing my husband and I are very focused on is our son's future and already we have a savings account set up just for him for his future. We want him to be able to pay his way when he gets old enough to go to college, university, invest in a car or a home of his own one day. It is our kids that we need to plan for after all. They are our responsibility and so it is only right that we secure their future financially as the price of money and things go up.
So lets see how well I do this week, and how good I feel by the end.
Many thanks for reading,
When we look after our money and secure the financial future of our kids, we are setting them up on a good steady road to financial freedom. It also teaches them about the value of money, that it doesn't grow on trees and that if they want something they must in invest first and spend later.
The other lesson I have learned is, if you don't have the money to spend, then don't.
Hello everyone, and I hope you had a good Tuesday. I didn't get around to writing on my Monday Check-in Blog page yesterday. Henry had another Audiology appointment, which went well and then he had his nap, and ok so some may think this is not a good excuse, but I had some TV programmes in my planner to watch and it's the fact that sometimes I know if I don't watch them when I have that gap of free time, I won't get round to.
Plus of course, being a football fan, which I know there are other ladies who are fans too, I was watching the football.
Well done Wales and England. Not going to say any more about the football, as I will rant on about England, let's just say I am not getting my hopes up about the next round. Going to see what happens.
I then wanted to publish my Spring Clean up So far video, and then get another video ready for edit and up on Youtube ready to publish. Then clean my kitchen which I do every Monday and Friday's, and started cleaning inside of some kitchen cupboards and draws. So I wasn't watching TV all day, just making the most of the time to get bits done on my list including catching up on TV that I had from the week before, to start the new set of things to do this week.
It was really good to celebrate father's day on Sunday and I did post a picture of the card I made and gift I put together for my husband. I wanted to give people some ideas about what to buy for the men in our lives, as it can be tricky.
One piece of advice never ask them what they want, you ask my husband it is "I don't mind, I am happy with just a card".
Translation: "I would at least like a card, but a gift would be very welcomed"
When I think back when my own dad, my biological father, as I do now also have a Step dad. It makes me laugh thinking about the gifts I used to buy for my dad. It always ended being the old fashion gift, of a pair of socks, maybe a new album (meaning a LP, a CD or a new tape) but my dad had loads of records and tapes, so worried in case he already some of the albums as he would top up his record, tape and CD collection often, or a new video tape but then he may already have that, to a box of quality street or a box of roses. There was a chance he would get the same, come birthdays and Christmas. Then my dad, who has never been one to mix his words said "I'm not fussed about father's day this year so don't worry about a gift, but if you do please don't get me any more quality street..", oh so a box of roses, it is, until he added "No more boxes of Roses".
Yikes, and I suppose he was also hinting, no more socks.
I think my dad soon learned that when I asked what he would like, he knew to tell me straight if he had seen an album, book or a video tape he would like.
Until one year when it came to Christmas and it was Christmas Eve, and I was going to get him the Gloria Estefan's new album originally, but had left it too late I had to think of something quick, as it was coming to the evening so only had a certain amount of time. Searching round couldn't find anything that I thought would be a good substitute, but I knew my dad liked to use Handkerchiefs, so saw a nice set of these in John Lewis and got him them. I knew my dad did use these so thought that will do.
Not a good move as he wasn't exactly grateful for these, teach me to leave it to last minute.
Highlight moment: Looking back, really makes me feel my age.
For my husband this Father's Day I used a photo frame, which was originally for Valentine's Day and was from Poundland, so inexpensive.
At the end of the day it isn't about the price, it is about what it means. Father's Day to me is celebrating dads for how they contribute to us as children and they do get a lot of grief at times, as I know from my own experience that I know I drive my husband mad at times, but I do secretly think he is a terrific dad and husband. He is a massive support to me and there is no way I could have had Henry my son without him. No disrespect to those who are single mums who have or are bringing up their children on their own. I truly think you are amazing too, as it can be hard at times. It is just great to have that second person to help.
My husband, my son's father, is in our household the main breadwinner which I totally respect and so it about giving back to father's. I took a photo on my phone and then printed this off using my home printer, to go into the frame. It looks so natural, he and I were so pleased with how it looks. It looks as if it was meant to be in there. I did photo edit, using the Photo Edit APP on my phone to give it an antique look, and it is so lovely that it is something for not just, Elv (my son's dad and my husband), but for our son to treasure aswell.
Another great idea is to make your own Hamper for your dad, and is really good fun as you can get the kids involved in this too. Using a collection of things you know he loves. Example, if they love football and you know they will be fixated by the Euro's why not do a hamper, with a can or bottle of beer they love, a bottle opener, with a personalised glass, a football shirt of the team they support (if they don't already have one) of the new strip and a set of different sweet foods for them to eat whilst watching the matches.
I do think that the inexpensive, more thought about gifts are the best. Or treat him to an experience. For example at the London Aquarium, they do Snorkeling with Sharks, experience. you can book a Champagne Experience around the UK or a 3 course meal in some of the top UK Restaurants. If you live North of the UK, then you take your man in your life on a tour around Old Trafford, if they love Manchester United, Afternoon tea experience at the Blackpool Tower Ballroom, or what we did is go for a coffee and some cake, then had a roast dinner later on.
Anyway got to finish, my dinner is ready, but I hope this will inspire some of you, of what to buy those men in our lives for their special days, such as father's day or for other special occasions.
So to those who enjoy football, I hope there are more great games to come. Those who are sick of it, remember there is always the soaps and plenty of dramas to watch. We still got Game of Thrones to see. We're on series 4 now at home.
Anyway have a great week everyone. I will blog again on Friday.
Many thanks for reading,
First of all I hope everyone had a good bank holiday weekend. I was working through most of it, so didn't get to enjoy the time off, but I know that others did, which was good.
I have managed to get a few bits done already today, such as a bit of dusting and sorting out Henry's room, washed my hair; no don't blame me for the rain which it usually does when my hair is washed, but it was already raining; I have my birthday cards ready as it is my husband's and Niece's birthday tomorrow. Yes they share the same day.
Sadly my husband is working tomorrow but I have planned to cook him a nice dinner of his choice, Steak and Chips.
Then we are both off at the weekend, which I am so looking forward to and going to take my hubby out up London, as he wishes for some trainers. I have bought him something he can open on the day, got to wrap this up still.
Part of my nieces present arrived this morning. If you are looking for some gifts, do shop around. It is so easy to just get out the cash and buy something on the spur of the moment. However you may find you can get the item at a lower price if you look around first. Amazon, Etsy and Notonthehighstreet.com have some really lovely items. All items on Etsy have to all be me handmade or created by the sellers themselves. So you can get some really unique and different items.
I sometimes also check out websites such as, Photobox, Vistaprint and Moonpig.com for personalised gifts I can create. I always have a clear picture in my mind of what I want to buy as a gift, and then I will look around. I don't always necessarily write it down, for birthdays, but I will have an image in my head first so I have an idea of what I wish to purchase before I buy.
I have also purchased Photo gift items from Boots aswell, but I don't like their delivery service as they say they will turn up on this date, and between this time, and twice now they haven't. These were Mother and Baby items. You have no idea when the photo items are going to turn up. When I ordered them to be collected at my local Boots store, they couldn't find them and weren't there on the day they said they would be. I like how the photos and frames turned out, but wouldn't use them, because there online service items aren't always reliable. I could still order in store but I like to order online as I can play around with the photos and personalise the items before I buy, so I can create them with a bit of my own touch.
Photo cards, you don't need to pay for these all the time, if you have a good enough printer that does photo printing, I would recommend, Laser printers to be the best and the specific photo printers, which you can insert your SD card into, and create a personalised photo card at home. If you don't have a printer then Moonpig is always my substitute, where I will create personalised cards on. Always reliable and they arrive on time always as stated. When you print at home your photos, don't buy photo paper from the high street, buy online, always so much better in price and still good enough quality.
Where do I buy my photo paper from?
Always Amazon, but again don't buy the paper at the first price you see, keep looking first.
So going to end things here for today, I will be vlogging this week, not decided from which day but it will include my husband's and I weekend, and I do plan to do another Haul video soon aswell, so once this is done and uploaded I will post it on Carriesrealworld.com for you all to see.
Anyway have a good week people and many thanks for reading,
So you may be a little confused as I published this blog but there was nothing there. Was clicking to find a good quote and image for today's blog and thought that this one (to the left of page) fitted nicely.
Yesterday I posted a picture of Henry on the swing in our local park, as I took Henry to the doctors as he has been suffering in the heat with hayfever and eczema, which we have now got some medicine and cream for. I decided to take Henry to the park first as it was warm but not to much, and then head to the doctors. I had no idea it would be so long, normally we do get seen quite quickly and he was kicking off as he wanted to run around the surgery instead of sitting nicely. It was hot in there too, I mean if people didn't have their clothes on it could have been a sauna. When we got to see the doctor he seemed to not have much patience for children and seemed to want to see us to get rid of us, due to the amount of screaming and noise Henry was making. I mean it was warm and I did quiet him down a few times, but how long can you keep a toddler from screaming and wanting to run around. Once they learn to walk that's it they want to be off and on their feet all the time.
Then in Boots I had to wait 15-20 minutes for his prescription. He then by this time was so worn out he dozed off in his pushchair whilst I was waiting. I had gotten up at 6:30am to start sorting out our guest room and wash the bed clothes from the guest bed, and put the bed back up, then gave Henry his brekkie whilst calling the doctor's surgery to arrange an appointment, and was surprised that 1. I hadn't gotten the engaged tone. 2. Actually managed to get an appointment, as usually I get told to that there is no appointments and call back at 12 (midday).
Today Henry had his check-up at the local Hospital, and didn't have to wait too long. There seemed to be a lot of people waiting even when we got there, so not sure how long they had been waiting, but we got seen quite quickly. Henry's height is still under what the average height of a child of his age (2 years and half), should be and his weight is good, it is on the line. There isn't an overly concern about his height as if you know me I am not exactly the BFG. On my nan's (my mum's, mum) side they were all little too, so it could be genetic, but then he could end up being tall like my husband who today said his height was 6ft, it changes from 5ft 9 inches to 6 ft, sometimes a bit over or under.
The doctor at the hospital was pleased with him, but he has to go back in 6 months time.
I watched last nights Eastenders this afternoon on Sky Catch-up whilst Henry had his nap, it is the first time in 4 years. All so I could see Grant Mitchell (Ross Kemp) return. I had no idea what actually was happening but it was good to see Grant return and get the bom bom at the end before the theme tune began, marking the end of the episode.
Been watching more of Games of Thrones, and I got to say it is gory at times and not for those under the age of 18 years old I'd say as there is a lot of nudity and in this day and age, some people would take easy offense to some of the scenes, but it is addictive T.V. The guy who plays, Tyrion Lannister (played by Peter Dinklage), I think is the best one in it. My husband and I always smile and laugh when he comes into the scene, because he is so good, and he has some of the best lines. Well my favourite. At first I thought "I don't like him" but as I have kept watching he actually really funny in it and plays the part as if that is him and have warmed to him, because he is so good. Definitely good selection in the roles played. The kids in the show are good, best selection of young actors and actresses I have seen as they all play the roles as if it is real, even though you know it is a drama, it is very well acted. I can see some of the young actors and actresses being in TV dramas and shows to come.
Watched a few more of 24 first series but got a bit bored at the moment, and hooked on Game Of Thrones, but once we have caught up on these we will return to the other series we have downloaded to watch those too.
Anyway have a good week everyone and see you at the end.
Many thanks for reading,